Groom Cakes

One decidedly American tradition at many weddings is the Groom’s Cake. Although to some it may seem counter to the whole idea of a wedding as a union to have a separate cake for the bridegroom, it turns out that there is a history behind it.

According to some food historians, the practice of having a second cake for the groom may have originated in England. If that is the case, the practice failed to catch on. It did however become popular in the Southern US during the 19th Century. In recent years it has seen a resurgence, and at least half of the weddings I have been to in the South have included a Groom Cake.

So what was the purpose of the cake? Again, opinions differ but there are a few recurring ideas, many of which imply that the cake was not to be eaten by the groom but to be served by him to the bridesmaids, either before the wedding or after. Sorry guys!

Another story is that he is to serve a piece to all the single women at the wedding. They then put the cake under their pillow and will dream of their future husband that night. Again – no cake for the guys, and one crumbly mess for a lot of women! An alternative tradition is that the Groom Cake is to be served at the rehearsal dinner, which is typically paid for by his family. Other couples give pieces of the Groom Cake to guests to take home as a wedding favor.

Whatever the origins of the cake, it has now taken on a life of its own and is very much regarded as a cake for the bridegroom, designed to reflect his interests. Weddings I have been to have included Groom Cakes in the shape of a laptop and an Egyptian pyramid, complete with custom made frosting to match the exact color of the Great Pyramids of Giza! Flavors range from chocolate to meat! While some wedding etiquette experts insist the cake should be made by the groom’s mother, most are professionally made these days.

Fiona Young-Brown

Time for a spooky celebration

Whether it’s a themed wedding or an annual costume party, Halloween always offers lots of exciting possibilities for party planners and guests alike.

Décor options range from the elegantly spooky, (think drapes of black and a few flashes of orange or red) to the Gothic, (vampires, black, coffins, and death); from typical Halloween fare (pumpkins, jack-o-lanterns, and ghosts) to the downright horrific scenario that comes straight from a Hollywood horror movie set (complete with animatronic axe murderer)! One wedding I recently attended featured the entire wedding party in full zombie makeup, and an incredibly detailed graveyard theme. The only limit is your imagination. Blood spatter on white table cloths? Great! Dried/dead rose centerpieces draped with fake spider webs? Go for it! If the event is a wedding, the bridal party might also choose to dress in black or dark red as opposed to the traditional white.

If you’ve gone to that much trouble planning the décor for your event, you don’t want to then spoil the mood by having boring food options. Again, let your imagination play and create food to match the theme. Finger foods can be made to look like fingers. Hollowed out pumpkins can be used as soup tureens, candy bowls,… you name it.

For the wedding toast, you might consider red wine instead of champagne, served in ornate goblets. And of course, don’t forget to ask your bartender in advance about a special Halloween themed cocktail. Choose anything that’s orange, black or deep red in color. You can always give it an appropriate name for the evening. There is even a black vodka that can give your drinks a more Gothic appearance.

Halloween is one of the most popular times of the year, if not THE most popular, for themed weddings so don’t be afraid to go a little wild. Or perhaps you should be afraid, very, very afraid…!

Orange Weddings

Continuing on from last month and our discussion of using Tennessee orange as the main color for your wedding, here are some more ideas and resources to show your loyalty to the Vols, even on your big day.

Luckily, orange being the bright, cheery color that it is, it makes an ideal color for weddings in spring, summer, or even fall. Mixed with golds and warm browns, it conjures up thoughts of autumn. Put it with white, a little greenery, and even some pink, and you have a color match suitable from spring through summer.

Your devotion to orange can start with the invitations. You can find an array of stylish choices at InviteSite.

The biggest way to incorporate Tennessee orange is in the outfits worn on the day. I have spoken to dressmakers who have made everything from tuxedos to bridesmaids gowns and even wedding dresses in orange. It could be as simple as the men wearing orange ties and the bridesmaids having an orange sash, all the way up to a full on explosion of Vols support. (Be forewarned though that not everyone in the wedding may share your love of Tennessee sports).

Alternatively, you could have orange décor. Your caterer and reception host will be able to help with this. A simple table decoration can look stylish and be the perfect offset to your orange wedding cocktail (see last month’s entry on orange cocktails).

The key thing to remember when planning a wedding theme around a certain color is to have fun. Sometimes less is more. A small posey of orange roses against a white dress can be elegant and stunning. On the other hand, match your personalities. If you are both loud and proud Tennessee fans, and it suits your style to be decked out from top to toe, go for it!

A shot of orange

When planning your wedding, it can be fun to coordinate with your bar caterer to come up with a cocktail or two that match the colors or something specific to your wedding. Since BarBop is based in Tennessee, this month we’ll be looking at a few ideas for showing your love of the Volunteer State, starting with a few cocktail suggestions. Ask your bar staff if they can whip up one of the following for you to enjoy:

Think of Tennessee and alcohol, and you think of Jack Daniels, so what better way to celebrate matrimonial bliss than with a little Southern Harmony for the wedding party:

Mix 1 ¼ oz Jack Daniels with ¾ oz Southern Comfort and 4 oz of sweet and sour mix. Add a splash of 7Up and pour over ice. Serve with a lemon wedge.

Or how about a Tennessee Julep for those hot summer evenings:

Cover about 12 mint leaves with 1 tsp powdered sugar and a few drops of water. Smash the mint up a bit and put half of the mint in a julep cup. Half fill the cup with crushed ice. Add 1 jigger Tennessee Whisky and 1 jigger Apricot Schnapps. Add the rest of the crushed mint and some more ice.

You’ll notice one more thing these have in common. That’s right. A Tennessee cocktail has to have something orange in it if you’re a Vols fan.

One drink that looks bright and sunny and would be perfect on a sunny day is a Tennessee Peach:

Blend 5 oz canned peaches in syrup. Add the juice of 2 limes, 3 oz Tennessee Whiskey, 2 tbs sugar and some ice. Blend together and pour into 2 tall glasses. Top with whipped cream.

Finally, if you want something orange, not featuring whisky, but still a little different, try a Red Surf:

Shake together the juice of 1 orange, 1 measure Vodka, ½ measure Noilly Prat Red, a dash of lime juice and 1 tsp Grenadine. Serve over ice with a cherry.

Of course, these are just a few ideas. Talk to your bar caterer before your special event and they will be able to work with you to come up with something different for your celebration.

Fiona Young-Brown

An Alternative to Wedding Favors

Wedding favors – pricey little things aren’t they? And how many weddings have you been to where, at the end of the evening, little bags of candied almonds or books of personalized matches are littered across the tables, destined for the trashcan?

I went against the grain and didn’t have any favors. Guess what – no one even noticed. When people are having a good time at your wedding, the last thing they are interested in is whether you’ve given them a small container of bubbles.

I know there are lots of brides who want to have favors for their guests, but they want something a little different. So how about some of the following ideas:

If you’re having a themed wedding, choose a favor to match the theme instead of something generic. Even candy can be a little different. Beach wedding? Chocolate starfish and shells. Halloween? Choose little candy skulls. A Japanese themed wedding can have mini cherry blossom dishes. You get the idea.

Are guests going to be fighting the heat of an outdoor summer wedding? Give fans as favors. Not the usual, cheap ones you see being handed out for free at festivals. Go for something elegant that guests will be pleased to use. Alternatively, if it’s a beach wedding, use palm fans. The design can match the wedding party colors.

Will you have a lot of guests coming from out of town? Think of a local product you could use - miniatures of bourbon for a wedding in Kentucky. Tiny bottles of bbq sauce in Texas. Trust me – there won’t be any of those left on the table.

Instead of given the guests a small gift, use the money budgeted for favors and make a charitable donation. You can then make little tags for each place setting letting them know that a donation has been made in their name to your favorite charity.

The trick with wedding favors is to be creative. Have fun with them and give guests something that matches your personality.


Fiona Young-Brown

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Fun lemonade stand wedding bar

Surely, one of my very first mobile bar experiences had to be the time I set up a lemonade stand, for my mother's big garage sale back in the late 80's. As a way to make a few extra nickles, I created a well equipped umbrella shaded, fresh lemon packin, only 5 cents a serving, lemonade stand. What fun it was to create that advertising sign, "Made in the shade and stirred with a dog's hind leg". Some of you may not have had the chance to do this as a child, but either way, you have probably seen or visited one.

This was the source for one of our mobile bar creations last summer. Our version featured a little more than your typical non-alcoholic lemonades, but you can make it work both ways. We started off with a 4' table and covered it with a disposable yellow plaid table cover. Next, we filled a huge glass vase with fresh cut limes and strawberries. Just behind the bar area we placed a huge shady umbrella over the entire table, sat our bartender in a chair, and put him to work behind the blender. Ofcourse, we topped this all off with a custom sign that you can view above. If you need a custom designed bar idea for your event be sure to give BarBop.com a call.